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BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER (BPD) TREATMENT 

BASED IN WEST HOLLYWOOD, ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Be proud. Be yourself. Belong.

Few people really understand what life is like with Borderline Personality Disorder. There is hope!

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This can't be how life is supposed to go.

It’s likely been this way for as long as you can remember—those who were supposed to be there for you either let you down or outright invalidated your experience. Maybe there’s a sense that no matter what you do, nothing has ever been good enough—not for the people around you, and especially not for yourself. It’s exhausting, and at times it just feels easier to be alone than to keep trying to meet everyone else’s expectations.

Feels Like...

  • There’s a lingering disappointment, like you’ve been dealt a bad hand right from the start. 

 

Anger bubbles up beneath the surface, but maybe you don’t even notice it—because it’s been pushed down for so long. Something always feels “off.” Maybe it’s the way you second-guess every decision, or how you find yourself doing everything you can to keep others happy, terrified of the thought that someone you love or really need might leave if you slip up or aren’t perfect.

 

  • It’s hard to even imagine what it would be like to put yourself first. 

 

The idea of saying “this is what I need” or “no, I can’t do that” seems so foreign that it’s almost laughable. You find yourself giving and giving until there’s nothing left, then feeling resentful and angry—not just at them, but at yourself for being so wrapped up in wanting them to stay. It’s a cycle that leaves you feeling empty and unsure, like you’ve lost sight of who you are or what you want. And that fear of rejection, abandonment, judgment? It’s always there, looming over every interaction and relationship.

You are loveable and worthy of care. 

I’ll show you that compassion until you can show it to yourself.

My Approach 

Together, we’ll rebuild your sense of safety

with yourself, others, & the world around you.

Learn new ways to show up for yourself and

what's important to you.

In our work together, we’ll use a method called DBT, which stands for Dialectical Behavior Therapy. This approach is considered the gold standard for treating Borderline Personality Disorder and is designed to help you manage intense emotions, feel more in control of your actions, improve relationships, and build a life that feels meaningful to you. With DBT, we focus a lot on practical skills—like how to handle stressful moments as they occur, stay connected to your values, and move through life with more grace, compassion, and ease.

 

One of the key parts of this work will be creating a foundation of safety together. We’ll start by learning ways you can trust and feel safe with yourself, with others, and with the world around you. You’ll experience a lot of validation here because your feelings are real, and they deserve space to be understood. Together, we’ll explore why certain behaviors or patterns show up in your life, offer compassion to those experiences, and figure out what might help you respond differently next time.

 

At the heart of it, therapy is about learning new ways to show up for yourself and what’s important to you. We’ll build skills to help you regulate your emotions, tolerate stress, and respond in alignment with your values. You’ll often leave our sessions with tools designed to make life feel a little less overwhelming and a lot more manageable.

Through specialized therapy for BPD, you can…

  • See yourself and your circumstances more clearly

  • Choose how much of yourself to give to others and how you want to respond in emotional situations

  • Better manage and direct your thoughts and emotions

  • Improve communication and your relationships, especially the one with yourself

  • Accept and take care of yourself without judgment

  • Feel more content, fulfilled, and at peace​

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It’s time to discover who you authentically are.

Let’s get to know you and build a life you’ll love.

Frequently asked questions 

+ What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

- What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD, is a pattern of intense emotions and difficulties in managing how you feel, especially in relationships. It often feels like an emotional rollercoaster, where thoughts, feelings, and urges can change quickly and life can become really overwhelming. It can be hard to keep a sense of stability, both in your emotional response and in your connections with others.

+ What does BPD feel like?

- What does BPD feel like?

BPD can feel like you’re constantly riding a wave of intense emotions, especially fear, anger, and sadness. You might feel deeply misunderstood, easily hurt, or like things get out of control fast. There’s often a strong sense of not knowing how to handle these feelings, which can make life seem chaotic. Therapy for BPD can teach you tools and skills to handle your emotions in new, less destructive ways.

+ How does Borderline Personality Disorder develop?

- How does Borderline Personality Disorder develop?

BPD often develops from a mix of variables like early experiences, family dynamics, and a biological pre-sensitivity to emotions. If you grew up in an environment where your emotions were invalidated or you didn’t learn how to manage them, BPD traits can develop as a way to cope. We all do what we need to survive, but it can make life harder to manage as an adult. Through therapy, we can find new ways of navigating emotions and life’s hardships that maybe you weren’t taught growing up. 

+ How does BPD affect relationships?

- How does BPD affect relationships?

BPD can make relationships feel like a constant push and pull. You might fear being abandoned, so you cling to people, or worry about being hurt, so you push them away. This intense fear of rejection, combined with impulsive reactions, can make it hard to feel secure or understood in relationships. Through therapy, you can learn what you want and need from your relationships, and learn how to communicate and respond accordingly.

+ What methods do you use to treat BPD?

- What methods do you use to treat BPD?

I use Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), which is specifically designed to help manage intense emotions, improve relationships, and get through hard times without making them worse. DBT provides practical skills for navigating tough moments, staying grounded, and building a stable, values-driven life. For more detailed information about Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), click here.

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